A few years ago I gave up on resolutions and started with a word of the year to focus on. Last year's word was HEALTH. Apparently I was not specific enough because we got this whole Covid mess. Oops! (Not really my fault but felt the vagueness.)
I really dig that you are doing the little things. Sometimes they can be the worst monsters. Keep it up!!
Love this! I’ve been struggling with my mental health a lot and because of that it gets hard to get things done and get organized. I got showered today and I’m gonna try doing some laundry tomorrow!
I’ve always made goals for things that I thought would make me more interesting, well rounded, and could “get me somewhere”. Every time I’d work toward these goals, I would get bored (or overwhelmed), give up halfway through, and question why I wanted to do it in the first place... then promptly go back to old habits that don’t help me at all.
Took me way too long to realize that all of these goals I was making for myself we for the absolute wrong reasons. I would make them to be more socially interesting, thinking it would automatically make me cool and fun. I would work toward things I didn’t care about, didn’t even enjoy, because “if I don’t care about it, it won’t hurt me when I fail”. I would try to learn skills that seemed easy, thinking I wouldn’t have to put much work into it an I would master it in no time. And for years I was stuck in this loop, doing things I hated for an end-goal I didn’t really want.
This year I hit the reset button. I quit my job and I’m working toward something I’ve always wanted to do; something that fear of failure and fear of hard work has always kept me from pursuing. I’m taking small steps that lead to one big goal in the end. I’ve limited the distractions of bad habits by either replacing them with good ones, or by using them as rewards for reaching certain milestones in my work. I’ve never felt so driven or excited for something in my life. This is my year!
Hi. Just now found your Felicitations! And just read your book You're Never Weird on the Internet (Almost). I absolutely loved it. I decided a few years ago that I would stop making resolutions as I never follow through with them so why promise myself something only to break that promise to myself. Your book helped me see that I am not alone in my inner evil voice telling me I'm not good enough or I can't do something. I know it is easier said than done to ignore that voice but maybe making it a little quieter is a good place to start. Thanks so much for being such an amazing person and an inspiration to all women and girls (my almost 10 year old daughter included) both in the gaming world and "real life". Also I love your twitch channel.
In my youth i worked in factory where i manned a huge vat of ketchup. It got everywhere of course and burned on in many places. Like the enormous copper heating coils in the bottom of the vat. At the end of the day I had to climb in and clean them. We had a steam power washer to do it with, I don't mean hot water. That thing was dangerous. But man did it clean.
How is it possible that I found you have a newsletter just now?!?!?! Loved it! You just wrote exactly what was happening to me last year mid-july. Full quarantine (we had 9 months of full quarentaine in Argentina and it sucked) and I did all that and more. Finished a lot of my games backlog, painted some walls, fixed my roof, fixed my water tank. Of course it's April 2021 and we are facing a new quarantine (yeah, everybody is talking about another one of those months long quarantines) so I have to start listening to my brain again and do more small stuff!
Felicia, thank you for this! I’m reading Embrace Your Weird, listening to both of your podcasts, and watching through all of the Women R episodes during my free time lately. After having my son 2.5 years ago, I feel like I lost myself and you are inspiring me and teaching me so much about my creativity and parenting and mental health. I get overwhelmed easily about the ‘little things’ that pile up and block my creativity and steal my joy, but reading your words or listening to you oftentimes gives me enough of a motivation-boost to tackle something and feel better. Thank you, I didn’t think I had heroes but you are mine!
Love this newsletter, just found out about it now (feb 4) via your facebook post! My resolution is to start learning to receive - I give a whole lot and do my best to not ask for anything in return, and I think it's time to start receiving.
I too have found an immediate increase in energy and ambition with the new year... particularly since January 20. Do you suppose that's important? Off to empty the vaccuum cleaner dustbox. Busy-busy old geezer. Iolo
I have not made a New Year's resolution
My resolution for 2021 is simple: Don't get covid.
Hi! Got here through your IG.
A few years ago I gave up on resolutions and started with a word of the year to focus on. Last year's word was HEALTH. Apparently I was not specific enough because we got this whole Covid mess. Oops! (Not really my fault but felt the vagueness.)
I really dig that you are doing the little things. Sometimes they can be the worst monsters. Keep it up!!
Love this! I’ve been struggling with my mental health a lot and because of that it gets hard to get things done and get organized. I got showered today and I’m gonna try doing some laundry tomorrow!
So cool! I have been listening to your podcast since episode 1 and am PSYCHED for the newsletter. Very Trio Mio!!!!
I’ve always made goals for things that I thought would make me more interesting, well rounded, and could “get me somewhere”. Every time I’d work toward these goals, I would get bored (or overwhelmed), give up halfway through, and question why I wanted to do it in the first place... then promptly go back to old habits that don’t help me at all.
Took me way too long to realize that all of these goals I was making for myself we for the absolute wrong reasons. I would make them to be more socially interesting, thinking it would automatically make me cool and fun. I would work toward things I didn’t care about, didn’t even enjoy, because “if I don’t care about it, it won’t hurt me when I fail”. I would try to learn skills that seemed easy, thinking I wouldn’t have to put much work into it an I would master it in no time. And for years I was stuck in this loop, doing things I hated for an end-goal I didn’t really want.
This year I hit the reset button. I quit my job and I’m working toward something I’ve always wanted to do; something that fear of failure and fear of hard work has always kept me from pursuing. I’m taking small steps that lead to one big goal in the end. I’ve limited the distractions of bad habits by either replacing them with good ones, or by using them as rewards for reaching certain milestones in my work. I’ve never felt so driven or excited for something in my life. This is my year!
Hi. Just now found your Felicitations! And just read your book You're Never Weird on the Internet (Almost). I absolutely loved it. I decided a few years ago that I would stop making resolutions as I never follow through with them so why promise myself something only to break that promise to myself. Your book helped me see that I am not alone in my inner evil voice telling me I'm not good enough or I can't do something. I know it is easier said than done to ignore that voice but maybe making it a little quieter is a good place to start. Thanks so much for being such an amazing person and an inspiration to all women and girls (my almost 10 year old daughter included) both in the gaming world and "real life". Also I love your twitch channel.
In my youth i worked in factory where i manned a huge vat of ketchup. It got everywhere of course and burned on in many places. Like the enormous copper heating coils in the bottom of the vat. At the end of the day I had to climb in and clean them. We had a steam power washer to do it with, I don't mean hot water. That thing was dangerous. But man did it clean.
I can't be the only person wondering how the pork chops got BEHIND the fridge?????
Thanks again for your time
How is it possible that I found you have a newsletter just now?!?!?! Loved it! You just wrote exactly what was happening to me last year mid-july. Full quarantine (we had 9 months of full quarentaine in Argentina and it sucked) and I did all that and more. Finished a lot of my games backlog, painted some walls, fixed my roof, fixed my water tank. Of course it's April 2021 and we are facing a new quarantine (yeah, everybody is talking about another one of those months long quarantines) so I have to start listening to my brain again and do more small stuff!
Felicia, thank you for this! I’m reading Embrace Your Weird, listening to both of your podcasts, and watching through all of the Women R episodes during my free time lately. After having my son 2.5 years ago, I feel like I lost myself and you are inspiring me and teaching me so much about my creativity and parenting and mental health. I get overwhelmed easily about the ‘little things’ that pile up and block my creativity and steal my joy, but reading your words or listening to you oftentimes gives me enough of a motivation-boost to tackle something and feel better. Thank you, I didn’t think I had heroes but you are mine!
Love this newsletter, just found out about it now (feb 4) via your facebook post! My resolution is to start learning to receive - I give a whole lot and do my best to not ask for anything in return, and I think it's time to start receiving.
I too have found an immediate increase in energy and ambition with the new year... particularly since January 20. Do you suppose that's important? Off to empty the vaccuum cleaner dustbox. Busy-busy old geezer. Iolo
I too have had a increase in energy and ambition with the new year... oddly enough, it started on January 20. Do you suppose that's significant? Iolo
I need to get a sponge holder.