Discussion about this post

User's avatar
Trish Lamoree's avatar

<-- Mom...people pleaser...author... I hope you read this and I wish I could tell you what I know... I'm about 11 years farther on a path similar to yours... I felt a lot like that when battling my inner self while raising my daughter in a way NOT like the way I was "reared." This year (she is now 15 yrs old), I finally felt like... I did it right... so I wanted to shine a light of hope (NOT pressure!!!)... My wonderfully-so-different-from-me daughter shocked me by getting into college a little early, and then didn't want to go unless I went with her. We are sophomores, pre-med/pre-law (we couldn't decide), take all the same classes, and face relatives and others who think I'm... <shrug? what word? bad? controlling?> whatever....because we just scored all A's last semester in pure pre-med classes.... so... I win. (My winning doesn't mean anyone else loses...in fact, it's hope...I hope it's hope?) I homeschooled, devoted my life to raising her, and it was worth every worry that I was doing it all wrong, because she adores our life together as much as I do. You mother good. I like you now. You're welcome?

Expand full comment
Andrew's avatar

I really feel this, after 6-7 years of working really hard as a game artist I feel like lost my personality because of the excessive work hours and rising expectations. Social media sharing sites always showing the best the world has to offer and you just performing for work and trying to endlessly improve to reach the next level or standard. It's not really until something goes wrong that you understand you're not living anymore you're just coping and for what exactly?

It's good that you recognise that's an inner demon of yours. Although there's a time and place for criticism I think we are all surrounded in a culture that just endlessly encourages us to compare ourselves as it is, we need to learn when to and when not to criticize ourselves and others better.

I think I'm getting better are not comparing too much anymore and just enjoying creating something day by day, but I've had to step away from the 2D game art and drawing as a profession to do that.

Expand full comment
14 more comments...

No posts